This reminds me of myself: from all the excessive edging and regular wearing of the chastity cage, my small dicklet never really gets hard anymore. And while all the others have great orgasms, I may only stroke my clitty without cumming
Theres nothing more erotic than watching your wife being fucked by some else then fucking her straight after, and if you really lover her you will get down and lick the mixed cum out of her, thats true love.